Scared of Lonely? Give Yourself Time to Heal
I think everyone should have a solid relationship with themselves before devoting their time, energy, and love into another person. It’s important to love God, love yourself, and then love another person. For those of you who have different views on religion try finding serenity and acceptance of the universe. Be at peace with yourself.
I couldn’t help but think about Jennifer Lopez in this example. J-Lo has endured countless failed marriages and relationships yet she moves on too quickly. Just months after filing for divorce from her husband Marc Anthony now she’s dating her back up dancer? After every break up you need time to heal. When you have a relationship with someone that person becomes a part of you whether you want to accept it or not. After a break up it’s healthier to spend some time alone to regroup and evaluate the situation. Involving yourself in another relationship too soon can be problematic. You run into the rebound or “hero” situation where you find yourself looking for someone to ease the pain. Someone to make the lonely nights less colder. Then you wonder if you really like that person because they are who you want to be with or they were just convenient at the time because you were hurting. If you are constantly moving from man to man when do you have time for yourself? Time to think about the ended relationship and the lessons learned. There’s nothing wrong with being on to the next one but why can’t the next person be yourself?
